Have you ever thought about how much time you actually spend during the act of sex? Like really took the initiative to clock it? There are a lot of factors involved, more than one probably realizes.
Does the initial kiss prompt the timer? Does foreplay count? Do you and your partner take turns? My guess is most couples aren’t exactly sitting there with a stopwatch monitoring how long each romp session truly lasts.
Everyone has their own preference. Some people may prefer “quickies” vs. long, lengthy sessions of passionate love making. I mean, personally, this girl’s got a day job. I don’t have time for it. Sometimes you just have to get down to business and get on with your daily routine.
If you are anything like me, you still want to know if that’s normal or not. I know I am not the only who tries to liquor up their friends among some wine and cheese just so I can try to compare sex lives. Right? I am constantly prying and asking questions like, “How is he in bed?” and “How long does it last?” Whatever. I need answers. No shame here.
Most individuals are either too shy or embarrassed to tell the truth, even to their friends. I know plenty of people that tend to exaggerate a little; and by a little, I mean a lot. “He can go for hours…” or “We have sex 3x times a day!” I’m sure. *Insert playful eyeroll* Yup… me too! I know, I know, I’m just your average-day Sex Goddess with an image to uphold.
Here’s the good news! We no longer have to attempt to bond over lies and martinis just to get an answer. A recent article in The Conversation by Brendan Zietsch, Ph.D., highlights the specifics on how long sex lasts. The study examined 500 couples in five different countries, who followed standard procedure concluded with a timepiece.
So, what did these researchers discover? Surprisingly, there was a significant amount of variation. The average time documented for each couple to traditionally have a full on sex-capade ranged from 33 seconds to 44 minutes. That is an 80-fold time difference, proving there is no “normal��?.
The median time it takes for couples to have sex is 5.4 minutes on average in the (United States, Netherlands, United Kingdom, and Spain). Turkey had the lowest endurance than the rest of the world, boasting at 3.7 minutes.
And of course we can’t forget our elders in this equation. They say the older you are the more experience you have, right? Well according to the data, the older the couple, the shorter the sexual stint. I guess some things don’t get better with age.
With that being said, don’t judge others on timing, or yourself, instead simply find ways to make the best out of your sex life. By engaging in the conversation with your partner, you may just figure out how to extend intercourse and drive each other wild!