How to find why your spouse has lost interest in you?

    Marriage is a beautiful union. However, no marriage is sunshine and rainbows all of the time.

    When you’ve been married for a few years, it’s likely that the nature of your relationship will start to change – and that’s okay! Couples are supposed to grow together; it’s when you start to grow apart that it becomes a problem.

    Have you been married for a few years and feel as though your spouse has suddenly lost interest in you? If so, you’re not alone. Many men and women around the world have experienced the exact same thing.

    If your spouse is no longer interested in spending time together or being intimate, it’s a warning sign that something is wrong. Here are a few ways to find out what that “thing” is:

    Pay attention to the behavior

    Your spouse’s behavior towards you is the first thing that will change when they have lost interest.

    • Have they been indifferent lately?
    • Not as jealous as they used to be when you speak to other people of the opposite sex?
    • Is there no more passion in the bedroom?

    Pay close attention to their behavior. While it may not tell you exactly why your spouse has lost interest, it can be an indication that they are getting their emotional and physical satisfaction from somewhere else.

    Check their social networks and messengers

    If your spouse has lost interest in you, it could be a reasonable assumption that there may be infidelity involved. If you suspect this, it would be a good idea to get as much information as you can.

    The first thing you should do is check their social networks and messengers. Reverse phone lookup platforms can help you to see their most recent social media activity, but you could also try logging into their account to see if they have been messaging anyone behind your back.

    Reverse search unknown phone numbers on their phone

    The best place to go for evidence to prove why your spouse has lost interest in you is their cell phone.

    If they are in fact cheating, there is bound to be proof on their phone. If there are any unfamiliar names or numbers, you can do a reverse number lookup. This tactic can show you important information about the person, such as their name, address, and social media accounts.

    Check their browser history

    You can learn so much just by checking someone’s browser history.

    If your spouse’s feelings and actions towards you have suddenly changed, there may be evidence as to why online. When you go through their history, you may find that they’ve been watching excessive amounts of pornography.

    Did you know that excessive porn watching can lead to emotional separation, the decline in sexual interest in your spouse, and even infidelity? If your spouse’s porn watching habits intensified at the same time that their interest in you declined, this may be your answer.

    Look for a problem in yourself

    Occasionally, a spouse may lose interest because their significant other has changed.

    • Have you stopped taking care of yourself?
    • Have you gained or lost an excessive amount of weight recently?

    Unfortunately, these can also be reasons why they are no longer interested. Physical attraction is a major factor in any romantic relationship.


    At the end of the day, there are several different reasons why your spouse may have lost interest in you. They may just be stressed at work or feel as though you haven’t been giving them enough appreciation lately. On the other hand, they could be cheating on you or meeting with someone behind your back.

    Whatever the reason, it’s helpful to know that there are ways to get to the root of the problem. Once you’ve faced the problem, it’s easier for both you and your partner to find a solution.

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    • Tom La Vecchia

      Founder of New Theory & X Factor Media

      Founder and Publisher of New Theory Magazine and Podcast. Serial Entrepreneur who loves wine, cigars and anything that allows to people to connect and share experiences.

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