Nothing like a new addition to the Bravo Housewives franchise to carry us into summer!
Monday April 11th kicked off the premiere night of the docu-series, The Real Housewives of Dallas. As the next city to join the salacious chronicles of rich housewives and their lavish lifestyles, Cary Deuber charmed her way into becoming an instant fan-favorite. With a magnetic personality, Cary Deuber proves the age old adage, everything really is bigger in Texas!
Originally raised as an East Coast gal, she currently resides in Dallas with her plastic surgeon husband Dr. Mark Deuber and serves as his operative assistant while still maintaining her own aesthetic practice. Don’t mess with Texas, right?
Finding balance throughout this whirlwind adventure has always been her mantra! With a wonderfully crunchy granola spirit, Cary is an avid practitioner of yoga, and spends her downtime meditating and finding time to do her yoga routines wherever she can place her mat and let go of all her stress. Her philanthropic causes have been a thriving force behind her social influence!
Many include: the Junior League of Dallas, Suicide and Crisis Center, Trinity River Mission, Turtle Creek Recovery Center and Texas Ballet Theatre. Safe to say, Cary is a powerhouse female on a mission!
Known for her Type A personality, Cary has a refreshing, dry sense of humor with an air of confidence and a heart of gold that shines in all the work she does in her community and giving back to those less fortunate. New Theory was able to get exclusive insight onto what this new journey has been like for her!
New Theory: How did you get involved in the newest edition to Bravo docu-series franchise “The Real Housewives of Dallas?
Cary Deuber: They just found me through a friend. It was completely random. I still can’t believe I’m on this show!
NT: Where were you born and raised? Tell us about your childhood. How did you meet your husband?
Cary: Originally I’m from the East Coast, but I have spent most of my life in Texas. I live in Preston Hollow with my husband, Mark Deuber, MD, our sweet baby daughter Zuri and my two wonderful step kids. In addition to being a mom and wife, I am a certified registered nurse first assistant (CRNFA), dedicated yogi, philanthropist, travel guru and animal lover (and caregiver to our furry kids, Lily, Daisy and Izzy). Mark and I met when he was a resident at UT Southwestern and I was a Nurse at Baylor. It was not love at first sight! We knew each other for many years before we struck up a romance. I wanted to work for him because he was such an amazing surgeon in his residency. Extremely talented surgical technique that can’t be taught. Early in his career he did a lot of microvascular reconstructive surgery that requires operative assistance, so it was the perfect job for me! Just so happened, many years later he turned out to be the love of my life! Who knew!?!
NT: What made you pursue an advanced practice degree to become a CRNFA certified registered nurse? I ask that because being a “housewife” usually comes with a certain stigma…
Cary: I started off pre-med at Baylor University and switched over to Nursing. After I graduated I worked in the operating room at Baylor University Medical Center in Dallas. I started taking classes at that time to go to medical school but I then learned about CRNFA’s and all that they do and it sounded exactly like what I wanted! I love operation and it is the perfect amount of autonomy for me.
NT: How is it working with your husband, plastic surgeon Dr. Mark Deuber as his operative assistant?
Cary: I love working with my husband. We have had a great working relationship for many years and it is so nice to be able to be together during the day. We are best friends and it just works so well for us.
NT: You’ve said before that balance is the motto in your life- How do you manage to make time for family, work and now filming? Is it overwhelming?
Cary: It is overwhelming at times. I just breathe and keep going. I feel like I need to clone myself most days. Sometimes things fall through the cracks and it can be frustrating. I just try to prioritize everything so whatever I don’t accomplish that day can be done the next.
NT: How does it feel being in front of the camera all of the time? Was it what you expected or did it take longer to adjust than you thought?
Cary: It was hard at first. I have never been on-camera before so this was all new. Like anything else, I think you have a fear of the unknown.
NT: What is the hardest part of being a celebrity for you and your family?
Cary: Negativity is not my thing. I don’t like to be near it. People were very negative at the beginning of this show and that was hard. It has gotten better and my skin has gotten thicker!
NT: You have many philanthropic causes with your name associated, why do you donate to this charitable causes? Which ones have the most meaning to you on a personal level?
Cary: I love the Junior League of Dallas. It supports the entire Dallas community and does so much for others. It also has been a very educational cause for me. You learn something new at all of your different placements in the League that you can use at work, in the community and at home.
NT: What is the best part about living in Dallas, Texas? Why?
Cary: I love to travel. The great thing about Dallas is that it is pretty centrally located. I can get to NYC, LA, Mexico and Europe easily. I also love the weather here. Being from the east coast I grew up with the cold! I love the heat! Bring on summer!
NT: What separates the cast of Dallas from some of the other chains?
Cary: I think we are funnier and wittier than some of the other cities. Everything is bigger in Texas!
NT: Can you give us any inside scoop on what to expect for the first season? Girl squad alliances? Cat fights? Etc.? How do you hope to be portrayed as a first impression Season 1?
Cary: I think like anyone we have our ups and downs in our friendships with each other. When you put 5 high powered women together you will have fireworks! I don’t like negative energy and it is tough to deal with that. I have friends on the show. They are real friendships not alliances. I also have an enemy, unfortunately!
NT: Do you think you were successful in achieving that perception? How do you think the audience will react to you?
Cary: I am who I am. I think sometimes my humor comes across differently than I envision. I told a joke about my husband being overweight, something he jokes about all the time and people came down on me and I was shocked. It is just crazy how people go negative when you meant only positive.
NT: Are there any other projects you are currently working on that would like to share with us?
Cary: I’m always working on my business with my husband! We are always growing and tweaking things in our practice. We are actually about take over a larger space in our building and remodel.
NT: What do you think of your tagline?
CARY: I love my tagline. It actually came from my stepson. He came home from school one day and said one of his friends had called me a gold digger and trophy wife. He asked me what that meant and I told him. He was upset because he knows I am the opposite of that! So no, I’m not a trophy wife! I’m a lifetime achievement award.