Whether you’re the cheater, the one who’s been cheated on, the cheatee, or someone who had to literally pick their friend up off of the floor when they found out their significant other wasn’t exactly faithful, we’ve all dealt with infidelity at one point or another. And, two things are for sh*t sure: it’s both horrible and heartbreaking.
But, does being a cheater make you a bad person? Not necessarily. It just pretty much just makes you an a**hole to put it loosely. Allow us to explain:
THERE’S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GOOD PEOPLE WHO DO BAD THINGS AND BAD PEOPLE WHO DO BAD THINGS:
Ever heard the of the word “mistake”? Newsflash: We all make them. However, the point of a mistake is to learn from it. So, if you’ve cheated 57 times it isn’t a mistake anymore, it’s a decision. (So, maybe then you are a bad person after all. Sorry.)
CHEATERS = COWARDS:
When we first discover that someone’s a cheater, we’re quick to call them every bad name in the book, when all we really should be calling them is a coward. If you want to have relations with someone other than your significant other, why not break up with them before doing so? Because you’re too scared to, that’s why, COWARD. So your problem isn’t that you’re a bad person, it’s that you need to grow some balls.
AND SOMETIMES, THEY HAVE TO LEARN THE HARD WAY:
No matter who you are or what you believe in, you have to admit that the whole “being able to have your cake and eat it too” does sound pretty tempting… that is, until it all blows up in your face; which sooner or later, it most definitely will. The thing is, it’s the easiest thing in the world to be selfish and a hell of a whole lot harder to learn to become selfless. Although it’s a life lesson worth learning, try not to do it at someone else’s expense.
CONFUSION CAN BE REAL:
Although many people believe that if you cheat on someone that automatically means you don’t love them, I’ve got to say I disagree. Like I mentioned before, people make mistakes, and while cheating is never okay, let’s be real here: sh*t happens. While it’s possible to have feelings for someone and still f*ck up, it isn’t okay to drag anyone through the mud while you’re still figuring your own sh*t out.
THE BOTTOM LINE:
For those who have been cheated on, you deserve better. And for the ones who have done the cheating, guess what? You do too. You deserve to quit the bullsh*t so you can move forward to become best version of yourself. You deserve to look in the mirror and like the person that’s looking back at you. You deserve to trust yourself, and the words you speak, knowing that they’re not lies. You deserve to know that while you will always be held accountable for your actions, they are not what define you. You deserve to know that you have the power to change your ways and start fresh at any time. You deserve to know you’re not a bad person, just a little bit of an a**hole.
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