Raising a child is not just about feeding, teaching politeness, or helping with homework. It is also about giving him a solid foundation when he is little, to help him over the years to learn the values that will make him a good person – someone who is fulfilled in his life and his relationships with others.
But how can parents achieve this result? Or, how to raise a toddler boy correctly?
Here we suggest a few tips for parenting toddler boys with which you will fully agree after reading.
Look For The Needs Behind Your Children’s Behavior
It is essential that we, as parents, know that our children have a reason for doing everything they do. Usually, the child often repeats the same mistake. As a result, he is usually scolded or spanked for this unpleasant behavior. Understanding why the child behaves like that will help you find the solution.
Concrete Example: Every morning, my boy does not want to dress and makes us – as they say misery. While trying to understand his behavior, it turned out that he does not want to dress in the clothes that have been chosen for him. He wants to choose his clothes on his own, even if they don’t go together. But it’s okay, as long as we stay at home. I have found a solution to make him change his clothes to go out. Also, my wife and I help kids learn dress themselves from now on.
Indeed, we often tend to think that child is careless and do not try to understand why he is doing something stupid? Knowing these needs of the moment, learn to welcome his emotions in a generous way: listen to him and seek solutions with him.
Don’t React in Anger, Explain to Him Why It’s Wrong
Know that we, too, had made mistakes in the past and will make mistakes in the future as well. The problem is not to make a mistake, but not to make the same mistake again in the future. Your child is in a trial period. If he did something wrong, he explained that what he did was not appropriate and especially why. When raising a son, talk to him like a grown-up, which will make him aware and self-confident. I know this advice might be easier said than applied, especially if it is a broken or lost item, and you are in the grip of anger.
What will help you in these situations is to develop your emotional intelligence, and that brings us to the next point:
Teach Them Emotional Intelligence
Although this subject is vast, we offer two points that will allow you to see it more clearly:
Letting Him Cry is Not Good
Contrary to popular belief, children do not learn to calm themselves down by letting them cry. The saying, “Let him cry; he will calm down on his own” is to be buried. The only result it brings is to make the amygdala (the emotional brain) over-active and excited, which will manifest later in more or less psychologically disastrous forms.
When a baby, or child, cries and is calmed by its parents, his body responds to this action by sending oxytocin and other soothing biochemicals. So this is how to develop a child’s ability to calm down.
Show Empathy With Their Emotions
Listen to them when they have feelings to express. It will take the form of words or actions. But more often than not, children just need us to make them feel the security of our presence while they cry or have anger to vent. Oftentimes, they won’t be able to express what upset them properly. But the attention you give them helps them to accept and process their emotions. It is clear that letting your child cry rarely helps. Instead, let’s learn to recognize his needs by listening and welcoming his feelings without judging him. He will know how to manage these difficult moments himself.
The value of emotional intelligence is that you help them learn and manage their emotions in addition to teaching your toddler self-management.
Lastly, Some Tips on Meals:
Most children enjoy smaller meals interspersed with nutritious snacks more than two or three large meals.
Children should be allowed to eat on their own, using their fingers or a spoon if that is what they want.
Let your children eat until they have had enough. Never force a child to eat and never use food as a reward.
Take advantage of the fact that your child is hungry to introduce him to new foods.
Small portions often go better than large portions, which can be overwhelming. Simple rule: one tablespoon of food for each year of age, with the possibility of repeating it according to the appetite.
Children under 3 or 4 years old should not eat small, round, hard, or difficult to chew foods as they pose a choking hazard. Raisins, hot dogs, hard candies, nuts, popcorns, and raw carrots are some examples of foods to avoid.
Daily physical activity contributes to a healthy lifestyle.
Don’t forget that meals are part of the quality time we spend with family every day. Stay tuned for more such posts!