First dates: How To Make Memorable Moments
Sometimes they’re awesome, sometimes they’re ugly, and sometimes they’re either so freaking good, or so freaking bad, that they’re really are just no words to describe them.
But, how do you avoid those dangerous dating disasters and make sure you have a memorable first date (in a good way)?
Here’s exactly how it’s done:
1. Effort
When it comes to making a first date memorable, putting in some good ol’ effort is a #MajorKey. And, believe it or not, it’s really not that hard to do. Putting some effort into a date really just means being thoughtful. Taking the time out to plan something is super nice, but it doesn’t mean you have to go over the top. If you know you can’t afford a fancy restaurant, don’t take your date there — instead, think of something else you two can do that’s within your means. Remember: it’s the thought that counts.
2. Good conversation
As someone who never stops talking, there’s nothing I love more than a good conversation — however, I’ve come to learn that few people really know how to have ’em. A good conversation means finding some common ground. Just as your date shouldn’t sit there speaking about themselves the whole time, you shouldn’t either. You guys have got to have something in common, figure out what it is, and get a discussion going off of that!
3. Focusing
Keep ya eyes on the prize! If you’re out on a date with someone, that typically means that you’re interested in them, so why not act like it? Put your phone down, make eye contact, and focus on what’s right in front of you. Pretty much, just be present!
4. Confidence
Before first dates, we all get a little nervous, but it’s important to take a chill pill. When you’re nervous, not only is it pretty much impossible to cover up, but you also won’t be acting like yourself, which is really important to do on a date (after all, you want your date to like you for you!). Remind yourself that you got this — your date either 1. asked you out or 2. said yes when you asked them, so either way they already like you!
5. Manners
Ah, manners, a very simple thing to have, yet also one that many lack. News flash: Nice guys don’t really finish last, and neither do nice girls. When on a date, please be polite — and this rule applies to everyone. Not only should you be nice to your date (pretty sure that should be a given), but say you’re out to eat, have some respect for the waiter too, would ya? If your date notices you being a total d-bag to the people around you, trust us, they’ll remember it… and not in a good way.
6. A sense of humor
There’s a quote that goes something like “if you could make a girl laugh, you can make her do pretty much anything,” and I’d like to think the same goes for guys, too. Seriously, who doesn’t appreciate a good joke? Dates are supposed to be fun, so don’t be scared to have some! Laugh a little.
7. An open-mind
First dates are all about getting to know a person, and while nothing too heavy should be piled on, if you do end up hearing something a little out-there, try your best to keep an open mind. Remember: you don’t really know this person, so give them a chance before you judge them. And, like our moms told us, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
8. Honesty
To end off any memorable date, there’s one thing you must do — keep it real. You wanna kiss them? Go for it. You wanna see them again? Tell them. You wanna just be friends? Tell them that too. No one likes to be kept wondering, so avoid the drama and determine where you stand.
