10 Things You Need to Stop Doing After A Break Up

    Why is it that no one knows how to go through a break up anymore?

    Is it due to the heavy influence of social media? Is it because we’re all really just that vain, that we can’t come to terms with the fact that someone could leave us?

    Break ups suck. We all know that. But the way people are handling them today is just absurd. You need to give it time. I’m not saying you can’t be upset, but for the love of God, must you have to go all psycho?

    Here are 10 things you need to stop doing after a break up…

    1. Stop Social Media Stalking

    If your ex is engaging in promiscuous activity with another person on Snapchat, wtf are you going to do about it? They’re not cheating. They’re no longer yours. It’s their prerogative to do whatever they want, wherever they want, with whoever they want. If you don’t want to see it, don’t look for it. You’re finding exactly what you were looking for. If you look, you will find.


    2. Stop Planning To Run Into Them

    You know you do this and you know you’re being stalker-ish. Stop trying to find out where your ex is going to be so you can, “causally,” run into them and act all surprised. You’re insane.

    They know, that you knew, that they knew, that you were going to show up.

    …It’s really not that complicated.

    People, especially ones who used to date you, can tell when you’re surprised and when you’re faking it. You’re not going to get anything over on them and you’re just going to look like a lunatic. The night never ends well when you plan these things out.


    3. Stop Sexting Them

    They’ve seen you naked, I’m pretty sure they don’t need a reminder of what your face looks like…. 8…. times…. a day.

    Stop adding sh*t to your Snapchat story that you want them to think about. They most likely don’t care! And, the more obvious you are, the more pathetic you look.

    Don’t put yourself in the position to be the center of jokes.


    4. Do Not Be Petty Or Subliminally Post

    Are you sensing a pattern here?

    Stop trying to make them jealous with your ridiculous Instagram posts and check ins.


    They know you’re single – they and everyone else in the world are well aware because you won’t let anyone forget it.

    If they post a picture with a new boo thing, WELL WHY WERE YOU EVEN LOOKING? You shouldn’t be following them anymore. There’s a button for that you know.


    5. Stop Trying To Communicate With Them

    They don’t want to talk to you. If they did, guess what they would do…


    But they’re not,  because they don’t want to….

    Stop blowing up their phones hoping to get some kind of response. They know your number. They know how to have a conversation with you if they want to.

    You’re literally killing any dignity you had left.


    6. Do Not Drink & Dial

    Being drunk is not an excuse to call them. If you think you’re going to get emaciated and make a really bad decision, hand your friend your phone and tell them to not give it back to you. Even if you threaten their life with a fork, do not give you that phone.

    Nothing is worse than waking up to a drunk voicemail from your ex or trying to decode they’re drunken psychobabble text messages.

    If you’re trying to get your ex to block you, you’ve figured out how.


    7. Avoid Starting Arguments Just To Talk To Them

    You no longer have any right to get upset over what they do. You can’t call them up bitching because it’s only been two weeks and they’re out at the bar having a grand old time while you’re still crying,

    No one is stopping you from going to the bar! Just remember, don’t show up at the same bar they’re at.


    8. Stop Whoring Around

    You don’t get over someone while getting under someone else.

    I don’t care what anyone says. Jumping into bed before you’re ready or to try and forget is the biggest mistake you can make. You’re going to f*ck yourself up majorly if you think this is the solution you should try.

    You’re going to feel dirty and violated after, not proud and vindicated. It’s going to hurt you  really bad.

    Sex is thrown around too easily today, don’t fall into the trap.


    9. Lay Off The Alcohol

    Drinking yourself into oblivion everyday is only helping you rot your liver and act like an idiot. Alcohol is not the solution to the problem. Ever.

    You can drown your sorrows all you’d like, but you’re still going to have your sorrows. Ignoring the issues doesn’t help you. If you need a vice, work out or something. Take up a new hobby. Anything that isn’t as lame or expensive as being an alcoholic.


    10. Stop Sulking

    It happened. Have your few days of sadness then put on your grown up pants and move on. It’s going to hurt for a little while but you get over it as long as you let yourself. Crying and binge eating can only lead to more pain. Trust me, I know.


    The fact that people don’t even know how to go through a break up anymore is really scary. We must set a new standard for how to live life after a break-up! Please. Just trust me. Life goes on.


    • Tom La Vecchia

      Founder of New Theory & X Factor Media

      Founder and Publisher of New Theory Magazine and Podcast. Serial Entrepreneur who loves wine, cigars and anything that allows to people to connect and share experiences.

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