Dating isn’t hard; you’re just an idiot.
I mean that in the nicest way possible. Sure, we all go through the cycle of terrible dates and psychos, but if you find yourself being the one left in the dust, it may be time to re-evaluate your um…” techniques.”
Dating horror stories are all too familiar now. It’s the little things people consider to be no big deal, are actually major issues. How to fix the problem? Let’s take this one step at a time; the only goal right now is to make it to a second date.
This is everything you’re doing wrong on the first date.
1. Getting Drunk
The two drink maximum is not a suggestion; it’s the rule. If you want to ensure that you will not get another date, then go ahead; fall off the stool drunk. If you truly like the person you’re with, you need to keep it together. No one wants to take care of a drunken fool, especially one that is practically a stranger. Not getting drunk is also the only way to make sure you don’t do something you’re going to regret in the morning. You can go home and drown yourself in Pinot Grigio afterwards.
2. Having Sex
I know, I know. I’m not telling you how to live your life, but if you have no issue climbing into bed on date number one, it may be a lot harder for your date to take you seriously. They’re going to start questioning the person you are before they even know you and ask themselves, “Do they always do this one the first date? How many people have they slept with if it’s this easy? Is it even safe to have sex with them?”
This isn’t meant to be judgmental or petty, but any person with half a brain is going to be concerned with their health. Also- protection doesn’t always work. There’s no harm in leaving a little mystery. If you really hit it off, have a hot make out session leaving them wanting more. Just don’t be a skank. That’s all I’m saying.
3. Talk About Your Ex
You’re getting to know each other. You may mention something about your last relationship or joke about the pains of being single, but DO NOT go on and on about an ex. All it’s going to prove is that you’re stuck in the past and don’t know how to move on. Honestly, who’s going to want to waste their time with some bullsh*t like that? Drama free is the way to be, and consuming new ears with old gossip will send your date running.
4. Be on your phone the entire time
How can you get to know someone if your face is stuck to your phone? The world is not going to end; FOMO is not real- put your damn phone away and speak to your date. AWAY. Not on the table. If you can’t detach from the world for a little while, do you actually expect your date to want to start a relationship with you? You probably won’t ever pay attention to them.
5. Talk about money
If you’re not looking for a sugar baby, leave your salary out of it. It’s fine to discuss what you do for a living, but until you’re well into your relationship, there’s no reason to discuss a private matter such as income. You’re setting yourself up for failure if you do this because:
- If that person is a gold digger, you just made yourself a victim of being used.
- Your date will be insulted because they think you believe they only care about money.
- Your date will feel inferior because they don’t make as much as you.
Want to impress them with your cash? Pick up the tab and leave it at that.
In conclusion, put in some effort to avoid doing any of the things you may have just realized you’re potentially guilty of. If you’re guilty of all of them, maybe just take a break from dating for a while… or forever.