En-Staged-Ment: Why “Hidden” Photographers At Proposals Are The Worst

    As a woman, I think I’m allowed to make this statement:

    We are LITERALLY the most confusing species to ever walk the earth.

    Most of us just sit around and dream about having a Notebook-esque romance. We want the kiss in the rain, the fights that lead to the most wonderful make-up sex, and the guy who plans picnics for us in the park. No matter how tough of a broad you are, you can’t deny you would melt if any of these events occurred.

    Here’s the thing about romance today… it’s not romantic anymore.

    All romance has become is a competition of who can put the most lovey-dovey, mushy post on Social Media. It’s all about titles and claiming your territory. *Insert Eye Roll* No one really cares about getting lost in someone else’s soul or laying under the stars anymore. If we did, we wouldn’t worry about gathering the best hash tags or finding the perfect filter; we would just enjoy the moment and take in the loves of our lives.

    The fact is, romance is suffering big time in the era of Millennials, and the ritual that has taken the hardest blow by far, is the proposal.

    We’ve all seen the Extra Gum commercial were the guy comes up with the most amazing proposal ever.

    You know what we didn’t see in that commercial?

    A hidden camera man planned by the boyfriend. Yes, I know, it was a commercial, but still. It was the two of them in that little gallery. No one else.

    What I’m trying to say is, there are no speeches and outpouring confessions of love. There are no men opening their hearts or telling you why he wants to marry you.He just drops to one knee, pops the question and hopes the camera guy gets the right angles. It’s actually kind of sad.

    Women are actually asking their guys to make sure they have their nails done before he proposes!


    That right there shows that you’re only worried about what your Instagram pic is going to look like.

    You should be excited that he could pop the question at any given moment, not whether your wearing Essie Fiji or Marshmallow.

    Why do you need photographers? I know, not every women knows there’s a photographer hiding somewhere, but every women is hoping there’s one. And if there is one, where do you think your guy got the idea from?

    As if your man wasn’t nervous enough to ask the most important question of his life, now you want to add pictures to the equation?

    Don’t give me that, ” you want to capture the moment forever.” Bullsh*t.

    If case you didn’t know, people have been getting engaged since the beginning of time WITHOUT photographers.. guess what? They can still remember that day and they still got married.

    Now, for you women who actually plan your own engagements and book you own photographer; you are a special kind of evil.

    Are you really that vain? Is what the world thinks of your engagement really going to help you decide whether or not you marry the guy?

    Ladies, Allie and Noah didn’t have camera guys or Social Media. We fell in love with their love story because it was them. Just the two of them being completely captivated with each other, not caring what anyone else thought.

    Stop taking all the magic out of romance. Stop putting pressure on your guy to create a flashmob or something  to go viral.

    There are two people in a marriage. You and Him.

    So why should your engagement be any different?

    Let him surprise you. Let him look into your eyes and tell you why he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. There’s much more beauty in that than staging things out.

    When you announce your engagement in person and tell people the story, it will seem that much more beautiful.


    Happy Wedding Season!



    • Tom La Vecchia

      Founder of New Theory & X Factor Media

      Founder and Publisher of New Theory Magazine and Podcast. Serial Entrepreneur who loves wine, cigars and anything that allows to people to connect and share experiences.

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