Perhaps you were one of the lucky few who ended up with just the person they wanted to end up with. Since this is one of the things that shouldn’t be taken for granted as there are still so many single people in the world (or people who are in the wrong relationships), it is crucial to do whatever we can to ensure that this relationship continues to thrive. Ending up in a rut is very common, and it can completely ruin everything that you had.
This is why it’s crucial to try and keep that flame alive; just bear in mind that this is easier said than done. What can you do? What new things and features can you introduce to an already existing relationship? How can you show that you still love them in new and exciting ways? Take a look at some of the ways that will help you keep that flame alive and well:
1. Send cute messages from time to time
Text messaging is one of the first things that we take for granted once our relationship becomes a steady one. The beginning of each relationship is perhaps the most magical time in the life of two lovebirds, but this magic might fade away after some time, especially if we’re not devoted enough.
However, by sending cute and sexy messages from time to time, and keeping that communication channel open for such things can definitely make your relationship even stronger. Surprise your partner with a sexy message, no matter how often you see them. They will still feel very much wanted and respected when they see a nice text message from you… or a nasty photo taken especially for them.
2. Be kinkier
While this may not be universal, sex tends to drop off once you’re married. There are many theories why this is happening, and each of them is open for debate, but it is our job to make sure that our sex life doesn’t suffer. One such way is by becoming kinkier and much more open to new sexual experiences. Perhaps the first thing that you can do is consider some popular adult toys that you can use in the bedroom. There’s no reason to consider it taboo, as it’s one of the most interesting ways you can use to spice up your sex life and reach new heights.
3. Be someone else in bed
Apart from purchasing adult toys (and using them), there are other ways in which you can keep the flame alive. Remember that the better your sex is, the better your relationship is, so why not try to spice it up a little bit by pretending you’re someone else? Role-playing may not be as bold as using a dildo, but it’s one of the best ways to keep your sex life more interesting and get a chance to be someone else and perhaps even make all your fantasies come true for at least a night.
If you’ve ever wanted to become a professional tennis player, you might as well be one for the sake of good sex. Be bold, be creative and, most importantly, do not be embarrassed. Both of you should always be supportive of one another.
4. The element of surprise
Surprising your partner even when it’s not their birthday or your anniversary shows that you care. Giving them small gifts, cooking dinner, or organizing a small getaway are just the things that you might need in order to add something new and exciting to your relationship. This is what will keep the excitement in your relationship alive, as it’s quite important not to be predictable.
5. Travel somewhere
Packing your bags and going far away for a while is something everyone can enjoy. However, once you’re in a relationship, or married even, this might fall by the wayside. But this is what you need to work on – there is nothing that can keep the two of you together so close as a trip to a distant country. Learn about new cultures together, get lost in a city together, make new memories that you will talk about for a long time.
Keeping your relationship’s flame alive is not an easy task, but it is well worth it, and we should always do what it takes to make that happen. Try team building activities such as room escape nights, go someplace together, make new memories, keep your sex life active. The key is to find activities that both of you love and enjoy and to create new memories.