There comes a point in life when you learn who your mature and immature friends are, and the realization happens in an instant. We’d all love to party every night and take off whenever we felt like it, but that’s not the reality of adulthood.
As much as we hate to admit it, eventually fun will have to take a backseat and working will have to become the number one priority, however this is a concept many people you call your, “friends”, may not understand.
When you’re trying to hit the work grind hard and have people barking at you left & right for, “never being around”, you may have to take a step back an re-evaulate your choice in buddies.
Friends Will Understand You’re Building Your Life.
Friends want you to be successful, so they’re not going to get pissed off at you if you have to work late instead of being their wingman at the bar. You understand right now hustle is everything and if you want to be sitting pretty when 30 rolls around, you’re going to have to buckle down a little now. If anything, your friends should respect you for missing a night out for some OT, not get on your case.
Friends Will Respect Your Hustle.
Don’t let the bullsh*t get to you. Your friends will understand that you work two jobs- or at least the hours of two jobs- because you’re a hard worker. It’s just the way you like to live your life, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Chances are your best friends are hustling just as hard as you are so they won’t ever question what you’re doing.
Friends Won’t Get Mad if You Don’t Call.
They know the phone works two ways and if you’re not answering it’s because you can’t, not that you’re ignoring them. Of course, we should always make time for people who mean a lot to us, but if you miss a text message or two, no one should be freaking out on you. The second you get some free time, you’re going to call and ask them to get a drink because you need it and you miss you friends. It won’t matter how long you guys go without talking, you’ll be able to pick up where you left off and not skip and beat.
Friends Won’t Ever Give You a Guilt Trip.
Not ever. They won’t come at you with, “why don’t you make time for me anymore”, because; 1. They know that’s childish, 2. They know you don’t have time for yourself let alone other people and 3. They know you’re not a bad person.
If someone is giving you a lecture because it seems like you don’t care about them anymore, maybe it’s time to let that person exit your life. They’re not doing anything but creating drama anyway.
Friends Will Let You Know if You Need a Break.
Hard work is one thing, losing yourself is another. Friends will get in touch with you and tell you they’re worried how much you’ve been working, not b*tch at your for missing Sunday Funday again. A concerned friend will make sure you keep your work ethical while enjoying your life. It’s good to have balance, but it has to be approached the correct way.
Friends Won’t Ever Make You Feel Bad About Missing Something
You’re always there for the important days, and your friends know that. So if you skip out on the club Saturday night because you’re exhausted from the week, they’re not going to make you feel bad by telling you how much fun you missed or rub their good time in your face. Again, this is immature and you just don’t need that in your life.
Your BFF is probably going to show up to your place with a few bottles of wine and hang with you instead of going out to party anyway. After all, if you want to actually catch up with your friends, it’s easier sitting on a couch than it is screaming over hr base dropping.
Real friends get it. For everyone else, don’t let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya.